I've been focused on it for decades. Not a lot of interest in a conservative, but also a little artsy, far from wealthy, struggling startup founder, especially when I don't fit neatly into any community category. I appreciate the support though, and I mean that. Our community just isn't great with this stuff, unless you are part of an established community (which I have also tried).
Not to be insensitive, but it sounds like a nightmare date from an early Woody Allen movie.
Instead of arguing with an obvious lunatic , you might have tried a little levity.
“You calling my grandmother a liar?”
“Not necessarily. She may have fallen off her flying carpet and hit her head.” You still won’t get a second date, but you may have more fun.
Or excuse yourself politely by saying, “I’m sorry, I have to leave. Just got a call. We are bombing Tehran in 45 minutes and I am operating one of the bomber drones. Tell your grandmother to get under a table or something sturdy. Can I call you again?”
You sound like a lovely man. Don’t stop being who you are. I am married and much older and not Jewish, but I am a committed Zionist and believe in and strongly support Israel and the Jewish people. There are more people who sympathize with and lift up Jews out there than you can imagine. The protestors and openly antisemitic types get all the headlines but there is a whole world of decent women who respect you and your religion out there. Move your search away from metro areas and open your mind to women you may not have considered before. They are out there. You just haven’t found them yet.
I’m a gentile, but have experienced this firsthand living in Orange County, California. I’m non-monogamous & often go on first dates. I went out with an Iranian man who literally told me that there is no proof of the r*pes Ham*s perpetrated on Oct 7,2023. I literally almost buckled at the knees and dissociated. I was not only a date with an antisemite, but with a r*pe denier. I awkwardly excused myself and went home.
I went on another date with a man who was half Lebanese, half Chinese. I found out that he had voted for Jill Stein (“for controversial reasons”). I knew then that I needed to find the nearest exit. I made an excuse and ended the date early.
I recently went on a date with an Iraqi/Turkish man and didn’t get to any direct topics surrounding Israel and antisemitism. I am considering not going on another date because I’n afraid of what they may say.
This is a really scary time for the Jewish people and anyone who supports them(and supports Israel). I wish both of us better success (my most primary partner has met a Jewish woman who dates with her partner. She has been a breath of fresh air to get to know and hugged me when she saw my gold ribbon necklace…I am concerned for her children in Jewish day school. I am so sorry for your recent experiences of prejudice and hatred.
Went on a few dates with a Jewish man that I had to argue for Zionism. He was completely ignorant of Israeli history. Honestly that was even more upsetting to me than the non-Jewish guys.
I'm reacting surface level by saying you didn't filter, it's an impossible minefield seeking companionship today and I put if you have a problem with Jews Zionism and Trump in my ad and it worked meaning I haven't interacted with females I seek to meet from online.
Have fantastic conversations with strangers at Goodwill and elsewhere with the exchange of business cards that go nowhere.
Interactions with strangers selling stuff on Craigslist are bafflingly obtuse with the majority of inquiries going nowhere and interactions not being answered.
I met the mother of my four children at an aish class, left her a mid note saying let's get together, she contacted me 9 months later, we hung out for a year deviating from my prior promiscuity with her asking to kiss me first. A Soviet immigrant who came in 79 with an attitude of despising anything Judaism related and had a magic moment at the wall and started to ball and became a baal tshuva.
I never had that disconnect and she got more into Chabad and me and it was good except for the Russian parent Factor with her father telling me to shut up when I pointed out that cross breezes will not make you sick in my own home as I opened windows on both sides of my house and he got up and close them, time passed with many more incidents from him without her lifting a finger to say Dad no... He actually called me a Nazi in front of my kids and when I tried to discuss it with her she said I was trying to kill him, saving that on video was wise, more nahrshkeit mishigoss and joy and then she moved out and haven't dated or touched a woman in 14 years at age 59, happily content in my head but baffled by Humanity today🤷
Rabbi Dov Fischer is near you and I only know him from YouTube but what a mench... maybe the ladies you seek are there. good Shabbos
Don’t give up - find a Jewish woman and make Jewish babies. There is our homeland, with a lot of beautiful Jews…
I've been focused on it for decades. Not a lot of interest in a conservative, but also a little artsy, far from wealthy, struggling startup founder, especially when I don't fit neatly into any community category. I appreciate the support though, and I mean that. Our community just isn't great with this stuff, unless you are part of an established community (which I have also tried).
Not to be insensitive, but it sounds like a nightmare date from an early Woody Allen movie.
Instead of arguing with an obvious lunatic , you might have tried a little levity.
“You calling my grandmother a liar?”
“Not necessarily. She may have fallen off her flying carpet and hit her head.” You still won’t get a second date, but you may have more fun.
Or excuse yourself politely by saying, “I’m sorry, I have to leave. Just got a call. We are bombing Tehran in 45 minutes and I am operating one of the bomber drones. Tell your grandmother to get under a table or something sturdy. Can I call you again?”
😹😹😹
Can we bang after the, you know, bang??
You sound like a lovely man. Don’t stop being who you are. I am married and much older and not Jewish, but I am a committed Zionist and believe in and strongly support Israel and the Jewish people. There are more people who sympathize with and lift up Jews out there than you can imagine. The protestors and openly antisemitic types get all the headlines but there is a whole world of decent women who respect you and your religion out there. Move your search away from metro areas and open your mind to women you may not have considered before. They are out there. You just haven’t found them yet.
I wish you well. You are a catch.
I’m a gentile, but have experienced this firsthand living in Orange County, California. I’m non-monogamous & often go on first dates. I went out with an Iranian man who literally told me that there is no proof of the r*pes Ham*s perpetrated on Oct 7,2023. I literally almost buckled at the knees and dissociated. I was not only a date with an antisemite, but with a r*pe denier. I awkwardly excused myself and went home.
I went on another date with a man who was half Lebanese, half Chinese. I found out that he had voted for Jill Stein (“for controversial reasons”). I knew then that I needed to find the nearest exit. I made an excuse and ended the date early.
I recently went on a date with an Iraqi/Turkish man and didn’t get to any direct topics surrounding Israel and antisemitism. I am considering not going on another date because I’n afraid of what they may say.
This is a really scary time for the Jewish people and anyone who supports them(and supports Israel). I wish both of us better success (my most primary partner has met a Jewish woman who dates with her partner. She has been a breath of fresh air to get to know and hugged me when she saw my gold ribbon necklace…I am concerned for her children in Jewish day school. I am so sorry for your recent experiences of prejudice and hatred.
Went on a few dates with a Jewish man that I had to argue for Zionism. He was completely ignorant of Israeli history. Honestly that was even more upsetting to me than the non-Jewish guys.
That's why I only date jews.
Zionist jews.
Fuck the nazis, well not literally
https://open.substack.com/pub/marlowe1/p/happy-purim-2025?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=sllf3
I'm reacting surface level by saying you didn't filter, it's an impossible minefield seeking companionship today and I put if you have a problem with Jews Zionism and Trump in my ad and it worked meaning I haven't interacted with females I seek to meet from online.
Have fantastic conversations with strangers at Goodwill and elsewhere with the exchange of business cards that go nowhere.
Interactions with strangers selling stuff on Craigslist are bafflingly obtuse with the majority of inquiries going nowhere and interactions not being answered.
I met the mother of my four children at an aish class, left her a mid note saying let's get together, she contacted me 9 months later, we hung out for a year deviating from my prior promiscuity with her asking to kiss me first. A Soviet immigrant who came in 79 with an attitude of despising anything Judaism related and had a magic moment at the wall and started to ball and became a baal tshuva.
I never had that disconnect and she got more into Chabad and me and it was good except for the Russian parent Factor with her father telling me to shut up when I pointed out that cross breezes will not make you sick in my own home as I opened windows on both sides of my house and he got up and close them, time passed with many more incidents from him without her lifting a finger to say Dad no... He actually called me a Nazi in front of my kids and when I tried to discuss it with her she said I was trying to kill him, saving that on video was wise, more nahrshkeit mishigoss and joy and then she moved out and haven't dated or touched a woman in 14 years at age 59, happily content in my head but baffled by Humanity today🤷
Rabbi Dov Fischer is near you and I only know him from YouTube but what a mench... maybe the ladies you seek are there. good Shabbos